How changing the way you speak can change everything
A few words can shift your mood, shape your habits, and change your whole day.
Have you ever received a compliment so unique that it stuck with you?
Once, someone I didn’t know told me that they liked my shirt. It was such a small thing, but it made me feel great. That shirt instantly became my favorite, I started wearing it all the time.
Words are powerful.
Just like kind words can lift you up, harsh ones can bring you down and stay with you for years. One day, I realized something: This didn’t just happen with what others said to me. It also happens with what I tell myself.
And I hadn’t been paying attention to that at all.
What do you say to yourself?
For me, it was often:
“I’m [X] years old. I should know this by now.”
“I should already be good at this.”
But those thoughts didn’t help me. They didn’t move me forward. They just made me feel behind and disappointed. So I started changing them, slowly.
A small change, a big difference
Instead of saying,
“I should be better by now,”
I began to say,
“I want to get better at this.”
See the difference?
That small change removed the pressure and guilt. It turned shame into curiosity. It made me feel hopeful instead of stuck. And once I did that, I started doing more, enjoyed it, and started to see progress. My goal felt achievable and closer.
You can’t change the past—but you can change how you talk to yourself now.
So take a moment and ask:
How do I talk to myself?
Am I good to me?
Would I talk to a friend the same way I talk to myself?
Because here’s the truth:
There are already enough critics in the world, don’t let your own voice become one of them.